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Gottlieb’s advice is completely “wrong.” No it’s not.
If you’re a woman who wants to have her own biological children, you have more options when you’re in your early 30’s than you do in your early 40’s.
Believe it or not, most men do not lie in order to get sex. Sex is so readily available from women that there’s no incentive for a guy to have to say something untrue like, “I love you” or “I want to be your boyfriend” in order to get laid. Holding out for commitment will, in fact, scare the guy away who only wants to get laid. And if she let me know that she didn’t sleep with guys outside of a commitment, I’d have been out the door in a heartbeat.
Naturally, calling a guy a boyfriend doesn’t guarantee a lasting marriage – not by any stretch of the imagination. Which is the entire point of my suggestion – it weeds out the guys who aren’t serious about you really fast.
You think you have to discover this BEFORE you have a commitment…but isn’t the whole point of dating to continue to discover things to assess whether you can spend your life with a person? I’m saying that you can engage in lots of serious foreplay before having sex, give an exclusive relationship a shot, and if it doesn’t work for ANY reason, you have the right to break up, one months, two months, three months down the line.
In that regard, sex is no different than learning that he’s got anger issues or is a bad communicator.
What you can’t do is argue with advice that is not intended for you.
I’ve done that a number of times – where I was so whipped that I dove into an exclusive sexual relationship right away.
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Because, you’re right: a guy can “wait you out” for 7 arbitrary dates, fuck you, and then bail.
But since most men do not want the hassle or the emotion of calling you a girlfriend and THEN bailing, by refusing sex without commitment, you weed those guys out.